What is Sexsomnia?

Sexsomnia is a recently described parasomnia, or unusual behavior that occurs during sleep. Sexsomnia has recently been added to the DSM -5  or Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders which lists most recognized mental health disorders.

Individuals who exhibit sexsomnia symptoms often demonstrate sexual behaviors during sleep. Moaning, body thrusting, and self-pleasuring have been described with this condition. It is believed to occur during slow wave sleep, when most parasomnias occur. Because it occurs during the deepest stage of sleep, those associated with sexsomnia often are unaware of their unusual behaviors. It is usually observed by bed partners.

Sleepwalking is another slow wave sleep parasomnia that occurs during deep sleep. Like sleepwalking, the individual is usually completely unaware of night time events.

Diagnosis is made by health professional based on symptoms.

Like other parasomnias, the potential danger of sexsomnia is related to unintentional injuries that occur during sleep movements.

6 thoughts on “Sexsomnia

  1. Jamie Kubess Reply

    Separate beds work really well. Those with sexsomnia will generally disengage in sexual behavior before leaving the bed. Or if you want to sleep with your partner you can get out of bed when they are experiencing an episode. Most of the time parasomnial events are triggered by stress or alcohol consumption. Mitigating these two factors can help dramatically. I wish my fellow sexsomniacs and partners of sexsomniacs all the best.

  2. Danielle Brown Reply

    I’m a 32 yr old wife who was sexually abused as a child. Now married 10 yrs and 3 kids. Husband must have sexsomnia. He keeps appolologizing. The advances without my consent upsets me. I even say no sometimes and it continues. I don’t want to live like this anymore. It makes me feel like he is just like the pervert that abused me. We’ve talked about doing separate beds but nothings changed. I’m not confident that it would work or that we will have a happy marriage. Advice plz?

  3. Susan Reply

    Are there any sleep study programs that I can volunteer for to help us to have a better understanding? I suffer from sexsomnia, or more so my partner. I’m desperate for answers and I just want to do what I can to learn more about why this happens and how to make it stop.

  4. Becky Reply

    My partner has this, any way I move his body move the same way in our bed so my back is usual towards him most nights. He seems to be aroused all the time, Day and night. I get so tired of it. I yell at him to leave me alone, it becomes a turn off then becomes to not wanting sex no more. Sometimes I want to please him so he’ll leave me alone about it but I just end up telling him to hurry up. I feel bad. I don’t know what to do.

  5. Mike Reply

    My wife and I both believe that I have sexsomnia and after nine years of marriage and two wonderful children my nighttime antics have taken a toll on every aspect of our life. She has been repulsed by me for over a month and today she told me she is no longer in love with me due to what I have done, might have done and could possibly do when I am asleep. and the thought of losing the love of my life over this is crippling. I don’t know what to do and I am at the end of my rope, and I just pry I can find the help we both desperately need to work through this large rough patch in our life.

    • Rob Reply

      You really should sleep in another room. You can lay with her and talk before going to sleep.

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